Reframing

Tobias Volz posted 3 years ago, 2 Responses
 I used this tool in the past and find it extremely helpful. Especially when parties are very focused on the negative sides of the conflict. For example, when parents file a divorce, they are often focus on the hurt and pain the other partner might have caused. While becoming bitter and focusing on hatred and the past, they often struggle to find common solutions for their children, and also see the conflict as an opportunity. For example, some parents might not function as a couple, but as friends. A divorce is also a chance to start a new chapter of life. However, words need to be chosen wisely. When used properly, parents, in some cases, even continued their relationship as friends and more often understand the importance to focus on the children’s wellbeing. 

I use it a lot with my kids. Showing them that life is beautiful. I think everybody who knows me, sports club, business, family, etc. is aware of this skill of mine: always to find something positive. Sometimes, when they want to drown in being victims, they are also afraid of this skill, haha.

BR, Daniel

Dear Daniel,
True, because there is always light somewhere in the darkness. It is a choice what one wants to see: is the glass half-full or half-empty?
Best regards, Tobias