who or what is communicating?

John Oomkens posted 1 year ago, 1 Responses
Communication can be seen as the transfer of a certain set of data around a certain theme. This flow of data arrives at the recipient, who then translates this data in the way the internal framework perceives it. This is coloured and filtered by one’s own internal (limiting) beliefs, morals, cultural background, knowledge, sensitivity and intentions, amongst others. The data can have various sources. It can be verbal or non-verbal, it can be audible or visible, or from mind-to-mind or from heart-to-heart. There are also those unified fields where one can be connected with if one thinks about a certain topic. An example here is when one watches the news on tv, whereby one connects with everybody who is watching it. Same when one is reading a book or is watching a movie. Here, one connects with everybody else who has been reading or watching it. Basically, there is an unlimited bombardment of information that comes towards each and every one of us. This is why the mediator needs to be very sharp, being able to discern which data sets are trying to dominate the scene or that are trying to overwrite the data sets from the other involved parties (including the mediator). That is why it is important for the mediator, not only to be mindful and compassionate, but also being able to broadcast that Unconditional Love so that at least the mediator is like a tefal- coated cooking pot in the sense that nothing can stick to him or her. This then frees the way for the mediator to use multi-level (sensory) listening skills, an inner knowing of what is ‘right or wrong’ and the ability to listen to one’s own inner voice, that ‘whispering’ advisor that always is trying to get through. These sensory / intuitive skills form the foundation of all other techniques used, such as reframing, remodelling, paraphrasing, pacing, etc.